True self-esteem involves self actualization. You recognize your limitations and weaknesses, but you have the courage, confidence and resiliency to approach challenges anyway.
Regardless of the parenting style, every parent has similar goals. We want to raise smart, strong, hard working, and kind people with high self-esteem. But our current society tends to obsess over feeling awesome all the time, immediate gratification and demonizing failure. I’m sure we can agree, we’re living in a stressful time. It has never been more important to foster self esteem and strength in our children.
But what is self esteem?
It’s not that your child thinks they’re the BEST and feels AWESOME all the time!
True self esteem involves self actualization. You recognize your limitations and weaknesses, but you have the courage, confidence and resiliency to approach challenges anyway.
So what can you do to develop true self-esteem?
CREATE A SAFE, SUPPORTIVE, AND ACCEPTING ENVIRONMENT: Acknowledge your child’s emotions, give them the space and time to tackle problems, accept and support the outcome.
STOP SAVING THEM FROM FAILURE: It’s tough to watch your child fail, get rejected or mess up on something. When this happens, so many parents rush in to save kids before they fall. Shielding your child from making mistakes strips them of the opportunity to learn how to bounce back.
PRAISE EFFORT, NOT PERFECTION: Make sure you set realistic expectations for your child. Reaching a big goal is awesome! But to create a hard working child, focus more attention on the effort rather than the accomplishment.
SET BOUNDARIES AND STAY CONSISTENT: The more your child learns about the consequences (positive or negative) of their actions, the more they will understand the impact of their behaviors. Discipline gives your child confidence in their decision and teaches them that they can make smarter, healthier choices in the future.
AVOID OVERINDULGING: You want your kids to grow up knowing that it’s possible to get what they want, if they earn it. This prevents entitlement and teaches children self-discipline and delayed gratification.
LET YOUR CHILD FEEL THEIR EMOTIONS: Instead of rushing in to save your child during times of big emotions, let them feel it. How you react to your child’s emotions impacts the development of emotional intelligence and self-esteem. View yourself as a guide, not a protector.
Children with self esteem are resilient and prepared to go out into the world without fear of failure and ready to confidently tackle problems!